Damian Tharcisius

Feminism Has Ruined Sex for Men


Feminism Has Ruined Sex for Straight Men

Feminism has ruined sex for Men

Epigraph

‘At the hard inner core of the Women’s Liberation Movement lies a bitter, extremely neurotic if not psychotic, man-hating lesbianism [where] the quintessence of the New Feminism is revealed’. 

                                                                             –    Murray Rothbardb (Austrian Economist)

                                                                                                            ————–

‘The lesbian is, of course, the woman who has no need of men. When you think about it, what is so terrible about two women loving each other? To the insecure male, this is the supreme offense, the most outrageous blasphemy committed against the sacred scrotum’. 

                                                                                         – Rita Mae Brown (Lesbian Feminist)

Around 2016, when a resurgent feminism was making its presence felt in the cultural landscape, one area where its rallying call was felt the strongest was the entertainment industry. Notably in big-budget movies and streaming media where the need for, as the argument went, ‘strong characters for young girls to look up to’ became a slogan for increased representation of not just women, but a certain kind of woman.

Movies such as Mad Max: Fury Road (2015), Ghostbusters (2016), Moana (2016), Wonder Woman (2017) and a spate of movies and TV shows from post-Disney Star Wars (2015 – present) sought to vigorously pursue the goal of having women play visibly more prominent roles in film and television. But this initiative, as it soon became apparent, came at the expense of male characters, whose traditional roles the newly empowered females supplanted. The idea of the liberated female replacing the long-established male lead was a subtler representation of the rising feminine (female), showcased in films like Gravity (2013), Logan (2017), and Blade Runner 2049 (2017).

With the onset of the 2020s, at least as far as mainline Hollywood movies, TV shows, increasingly comics and even video games are concerned this trend has only gained pace. Now if one looks a bit closely at the trend in greater female representation at the cultural mainstream, one would notice a glaring factor. A variable that stands out as one of the, if not the defining feature of almost all of these empowered, independent women on screen: is their lack of sex appeal.

This change, where females are not only elevated as the new, liberated, empowered leaders in popular culture, but the accompanying retardation of their sexuality, specifically its heteronormative orientation is a telling feature of the modern gender movement. With the ideology that drives it, feminism, the main force behind it. One that is reflective of the deeper anti-sexuality that lies at the core of feminist ideology. A sentiment that stems from a deeper unease with heterosexual relations felt by its proponents.

In this essay, I will explore the rise of what can be described as ‘anti-sex feminism’. I don’t take credit for coining this term, as I am sure others before me have adopted a similar phraseology. A key point that I will make in this work is that the growing antagonism towards female sexuality, specifically one that is catered towards heterosexual relationships that is now pervasive in popular culture is a consequence of the rise of feminism as a movement that seeks equality with men. But what this notion of “equality” has meant in practice is the progressive masculinization of women.

The Origins of Anti-Sex Feminism

Betty Friedan, one of the leading thinkers of second-wave feminism, in her bestselling book: The Feminine Mystique (1963) argued that private companies and the corporate media in general are using marketing techniques via television and other forms of advertising to implant the idea into the minds of women that being a stay at home wife + mom was a great choice; convincing women of the comforts and security they stand to receive by virtue of their biology (1).

Her thesis was that private corporations through the strategic use of advertising were selling the ideal of the happy housewife to the politically liberated women (thanks to the 19th Amendment) of the West as a way to keep them down, stopping them from realizing their full potential. A message, Ms. Friedan argues has lulled women into becoming pliant creatures who were willing to embrace (or settle for) a husband-centric, home-centric, family-centric way of life. The adoption of such a lifestyle by women in en masse is the output of yet another, albeit a subtler machination, in the history of male efforts at the oppression of women.

Ms. Friedan’s main point is that if women were left to their own devices, away from the indoctrinating influences of mass media and home-centric consumerism, would be inclined to do other, seemingly less feminine things: like pursuing professional careers, and valuing social accomplishments that transcend homemaking and familial duties. Underlying her message, one that apparently gave rise to the next stage in the women’s liberation movement (second-wave feminism), is an accompanying critique of the workings of market economies.

Notably how profit-driven private corporations play on the psychology of women. Selling them the idea of comfort and security of a happy marriage, sowing the seeds of an identity that is primarily or solely defined by their sexuality. To be desired, wooed, wed, and provided for by men whose aspirations lie beyond the remits of the household. Men who subconsciously take delight in keeping women tied to the home.

The broader point of Ms. Friedan’s thesis, whilst she does not explicitly state this, is feminism’s opposition to capitalism. This is not a big revelation considering that a lot of people living in Western societies, even during the Cold War era, were opposed to capitalism. Or rather, what capitalism is supposed to stand for: corporate power, business lobbying, multinational corporations with no loyalty to a nation or culture, the disproportionate influence of the financial industry over the real economy, and the growing disconnect between the extremely wealthy (multimillionaires and billionaires) and the rest of society.

It is unfortunate that these concerns, which are legitimate and ought to concern most people, get tied to capitalism or better what the market system represents. A system that enables the interaction between buyers and sellers, who are driven by self-gain to sell their products and services to buyers who subjectively value them. The buyers acquire the power (or purchasing power) to do so by trading their skills, abilities and know-how in the very same marketplace; in return for just reward.

So whenever companies bring to market a product or service that is harmful, or something which target-customers are unable to afford, the company loses out via the decline in sales. In other words market economies, when they are functioning freely (i.e. without State intervention) naturally weed out inefficient, unproductive firms. And the main arbiter of this process is the consumer. The citizenry that votes to elect its leaders ‘votes’, through the many purchasing decisions it makes each day determines the fate of corporations big and small. In other words, there is something quite logical and aspirational about how the market economy works.

This is important. In case the reader was wondering why I have ventured into economics 101, since many of the concerns that feminists have and continue to raise against the supposedly oppressive (i.e. patriarchal) character of society, upon deeper reading emerge as a direct or indirect critique of the free operation of the market system.

As I will proceed to show, feminists in the name of fighting gender discrimination, sexism and the pursuit of equal representation routinely interfere with the working of a free market system. One that is (or is meant to be) built on the decisions that individuals freely make. Such as opting to see a movie that features a strong, heroic male lead who overcomes internal adversity, a genuinely menacing villain, and wins the affection of an attractive but initially resistant female; who partners him in his endeavors, in confronting obstacles with big stakes and great rewards at the end.

Nothing too fancy with this template, but therein lies its captivating power. But modern feminism, for all the attention it commands culturally-ironic amidst the continuing cries for greater representation-has grown into a hostile force as far as traditional, male, heteronormative sensibilities are concerned. A reality that is most visible in film and television and the arts in general. One that reflects a deeper antipathy towards feminine beauty and the male capacity for its appreciation, validation and reciprocation.

No Country for Hot Women

Are you beach body ready?

In 2015 an online fitness protein store, Protein World ran a weight loss advert portraying the Australian model Renee Somerfield in a captivating yellow two-piece bathing suit. The objective of the advert was to communicate the importance of physical health and its correlation with a tone slim physique; which the protein supplements the company was selling was supposed to aid.

A positive message one would think. Loaded with innuendo no doubt to excite the masses into considering the pursuit of an ideal body image that shouts ‘health and fitness’. The attainment of such a physique is meant to enhance women’s social worth by helping them feel more attractive and thus more desirable to men.

However, the public reaction that followed said otherwise. The advert which was splashed across parts of the London Underground didn’t go down too well with certain segments of the female populace. With groups of disgruntled women showcasing their opposition to the advert by protesting it. Apparently unhappy with its message of idealizing of a certain body type (i.e. the ideal hourglass one); and with it the urging for women to get in shape.

Some segments of the anti-beach body-ready activists took their disgruntlement to social media, expressing their vexation towards the beauty and fitness standards of the ad. Online petitions calling for the removal of the advert from the London underground amassed around 60,000 signatures. The protesters didn’t seem content to simply express their antipathy towards the advert and be done with it and instead occupied themselves with promulgating a counter-narrative on what it means to have a healthy, fit, beautiful or ‘beach ready’ body. With hashtag campaigns on X (formerly Twitter) being launched to counter protein world’s product slogan (2).

The anger and disapproval expressed by the churlish masses was not simply an emotional one. Despite the claims by the company’s marketing chief that the goal of the ad was to “make the nation healthier” and that the model was not subject to photo-shopping. It fell on deaf ears as feminists and their social justice allies amassed over 70,000 signatures calling for the advertisement’s removal (ibid).

The advert’s message, according to its critics was exclusionary with respect to women whose anatomies fall into different body-mass index categories, and/or who were unable or unwilling to make the effort to look like the Australian supermodel. However, a critical look at the protest indicates that the opposition to the advert triggered something deep in the minds of the activists.

The disgruntled who had been mobilized by the advert featuring a scantly clad babe, in expressing their anger were also carrying a fitness message of their own: that all bodies, regardless of shape, size and weight are beach body ready. This was evident in the kind of hostility towards the advert; one that exemplified an almost fanatical zeal: as Protein World’s head of marketing and his colleagues were even subjected to “violent threats” (ibid). The ads were eventually banned by the Advertising Standards Authority (ASA), an independent advertising watchdog.

When one looks at the protests closely what is notable is its political character. There was something ‘territorial’ about the way the protesters went about expressing their displeasure. It is important to note here that this spectacle from 2015 took place at a time when a more, for the lack of a better word ‘traditional’ feminism was all the rage. A kind of feminism that was still characteristically woman-centric (biological female). As the trans wing of the LGBTQ movement was yet to make its presence known.

The various ways through which opposition to the advert was organized and expressed, the level and intensity of the activism directed against the company, the product and the broader narrative on health and fitness, indicates an attitude that is not so much seeking representation, recognition and acceptance. But rather one of condemnation. To condemn by berating, dismissing to eventually shutting down a point of view and its commercial representation, on the basis that it was deemed to be discriminatory by some.

The question is why? Why were feminists, their intellectual ideologues, and their many silent and not-so-silent followers so moved to act against a lowly fitness commercial? I mean it was not as if the man running to be prime minister came out and said that women, all women, should aspire to a certain anatomical standard.

One explanation is that many women who embrace the feminist worldview do so for ideological reasons. Meaning they hold onto the dictum of gender ideology (apart from the trappings of transgenderism) to such a degree that their very identity, personal and social, are tied to it. In Anglo-American societies it is not rare to encounter women who begin a sentence with ‘as a feminist’, or ‘but thanks to feminism’ etc. This implies that women in predominantly post-industrial, post-Christian, cosmopolitan environments have come to define themselves in relation to what the feminist movement represents and purports to fight for: the better representation of women in modern societies.

This means that any view that challenges feminist notions of beauty, sexuality and identity is confronted with the zeal akin to that of a religious fanatic engaging a heretic of the faith. Since their individual identity is based on the cause it espouses: to liberate women from a society that exists to keep them down, feminists at a personal level and at the collective are constantly triggered by narratives, portrayals and messages that challenge their ideological notions.  

Political Pageantry

Political Pageantry

In 2014 the Miss World Pageant announced that it was ending the swimsuit round. The chairwoman Julia Morley, who took over from her late husband who founded the organization, stated: “I don’t care if someone has a bottom two inches bigger than someone else’s. We are really not looking at her bottom. We are really listening to her speak” (3). This shift in focus came as the pageant was seeking to promote its ‘Beauty with a Purpose” theme with greater intensity.

The decision to end the controversial swimsuit round, whilst sudden, was not unexpected. The Miss World pageant over the years had been steadily downplaying this segment of the competition. Whilst the swimsuit or bikini portion of the competition was interestingly one of the foundational factors of the world’s top beauty pageant, over the years beauty pageants and the swimsuit round in particular have become a contentious issue.

A quick history lesson. The Miss World competition started out in 1951 as a bikini contest that took place at the Lyceum Ballroom in London. In other words, the sex appeal of the contestants was the main selling point. The first winner, the Swede Kiki Håkansson, was crowned in a white two-piece bathing suit. A decision that received condemnation from the Pope. Over the years the competition endured much criticism and pressure from feminists and Islamists alike. In the 1970’s it was the target of feminists who protested against the “objectification of women” (4).

Things got a bit better with the introduction of the ‘Beauty with a Purpose’ segment a couple of years later. The goal of the initiative was to provide the beauty pageant with a social mission apart from its historically titillating character. With this development, the contestants were rewarded for their involvement in and advocacy for charitable projects and causes. This aspect of the pageant grew steadily in significance as the more visual side of the pageant that valued attractiveness, started to feature lower on the list of priorities.

The sex appeal the swimsuit pageant naturally embodied, over time was considered a less important variable in determining the winner of the contest. As the aptitudes and accomplishments of the candidates were elevated in significance. Here it is worth noting the differences between Miss World and its main competitor: Miss Universe. The latter, at least until Donald Trump was in charge, placed much greater emphasis on the visual side of the equation. A focus that was visible in the swimsuit portion of the competition that remained a mainstay. The motto of Miss Universe ‘Confidently Beautiful’ contrasts with Miss World’s ‘Beauty with a Purpose’.

Incidentally, the very origins of the Miss Universe contest can be traced back to a controversy over the subject of sex appeal. In 1950 Yolande Betbeze, a girl from Alabama was crowned Miss America, which at the time included the swimsuit competition. Part of the deal for winning the title was the expectation that the winner would model in swimsuits in promotional events post-pageant. As per the demands of one of Miss America’s major sponsors Catalina: a swimsuit maker. Betbeze refused (5). This led the infuriated leadership of the swimwear maker to start their own pageant: Miss USA and later its global arm Miss Universe.

Much has changed over the decades since the two pageants started. Both Miss World and Miss America competitions moving in a markedly more feminist direction. With Miss World moving at a more rapid pace towards it. The Miss Universe competition, despite maintaining its beauty-first outlook also started showing signs of submitting to feminism’s women’s empowerment (i.e. anti-sexual) agenda in recent years.

In September 2023, JKN Global Group, the Thailand-based owner of Miss Universe announced that it would end age restrictions for contestants over 18 years (6). Until then the uppermost limit for contestants was 28. This change, justified on the grounds of increasing the inclusivity and representation of the competition-the buzzwords of the social justice-obsessed era we are living through-works against the primacy of beauty that pageants have historically embodied.

It goes without saying that women are the most attractive in their youth, with the prime years of female attractiveness found between the ages of 18 – 24. Now with the competition open to all females (or those who identify as such) of 18 and above, necessarily marginalizes a lot of young women from having a chance to compete for the title, and critically the social value and commerciality their youth and beauty represents.

One of the key points that many of the “equality, diversity and representation” activists miss or purposefully ignore is that by claiming to make competitions more ‘inclusive’ by bringing down restrictions (i.e standards) and other limits, they make it difficult for a larger pool of those who are better qualified (young, attractive, sexy, hot) to win the title. In the name of increasing inclusivity a lot of young women are denied the opportunity to partake and compete in something that is tailored for their age and stage in life.

So the decision to allow adult women of all ages to compete in a beauty pageant, the premium that is placed on beauty and youth is naturally devalued. If the ownership of Miss Universe decides to stick with this policy-which is uncertain as the organization subsequently filed for bankruptcy in the same year-then it would stand to lose its title as a ‘beauty contest’, and instead become some kind of weird diversity/inclusivity parade.

Also, since Miss Universe is yet to ax the swimsuit portion of the contest, viewers who do bother to tune in will have to endure the ordeal of watching women deep into menopause strutting their stuff on the stage. On top of having to listen to them drone on about their social activism and plans to promote women’s rights.

And the anti-beauty, sexy trend in Western culture has only grown stronger. After Miss World ended the swimsuit portion of the competition in 2014, Miss Teen USA followed suit in 2016 ending its swimsuit segment. Replacing it with ‘athletic wear’ (7). In 2018 Miss America, under new (female) leadership decided to put an end to the swimsuit segment as well (8). These developments happening so close to each other are telling with regard to the trajectory of mainstream culture in the West, particularly the English-speaking world.

What is happening is that the social perception of women in the West, notably in the Anglo-American world, at least at the level of mainstream culture is being altered. And feminism is the main catalyst. From a standard that values youth, beauty, femininity and sexiness to one that extols competence, accomplishment, industry and activism. All of these logically work against the feminine principle that men value: of not just youth and beauty, but of femininity: that of being vulnerable, desirable and available.

Then there is the transgender matter of allowing biological men who identify as women to enter female beauty pageants. This subject is a can of worms I will stay away from.

The Sexy Myth and the Embrace of Censorship

Feminist censorship

In her bestselling book The Beauty Myth (1990), the feminist author Naomi Wolf rails against, what she deems to be the dominant standards of beauty and feminine aesthetics of our day. The standards which elevate curves, cleavage, full lips, lean long legs; and underpinning these, youth and health, as forces which are advanced by (male-dominated) corporations to keep women down.

Entities, who through adverts and entertainment, insidiously work to subdue the will of women. By evoking, inducing, and potentially imposing on women a set of expectations with regard to sex, beauty and femininity. As the argument goes, such unattainable beauty standards that women have been made to embrace have pushed modern women into social straitjackets that keep them psychologically restricted. As Ms. Wolf explains:

“The ideology of beauty is the one remaining of the old feminine ideologies that still has the power to control those women whom second-wave feminism would have otherwise made relatively uncontrollable” (9).

Ms. Wolf takes an interesting but predictable approach in associating “beauty” with terms like ‘control’, ‘power’ and ‘ideology’. Feminism, like any Marxist-inspired grievance-based movement views human relationships at the level of the collective as powerplays between opposing factions: patricians vs pelbian, serfs vs landlords, men vs women. But what the feminist Ms Wolf gets wrong is misapprehending how power, in relation to beauty, operates in a relatively free (non-totalitarian) society where individual agency rules.

The first mistake that Ms. Wolf makes is to suggest that beauty is an external construct: something that society defines and then hurls onto the shoulders of women and girls, expecting them to conform to it. When in fact beauty which can be defined as the level of attractiveness that varies from woman to woman, is integral, and in many ways, I would argue, is unique to women. You cannot call a man ‘beautiful’, But a woman, certainly.

To understand how Ms. Wolf came to associate beauty with a means of control, as something that is externally imposed on women with its implied connection to an ideology-presumably market capitalism-one needs to understand the psychology of the author and the movement she represents.

The first thing to note is that there is something inherently negative and distasteful about the feminist movement. As noted, it is a movement which is based on and trades in grievance. Hence it represents something quite dark and pessimistic about female nature. Driven by a worldview that builds on the mistaken notion that men, specifically Western men: those who claim Athens, Rome and Jerusalem as their heritage are oppressors of women, and thus necessitates the ‘liberation’ of females from such oppression. This negative worldview lies at the heart of feminism and everything that its ideologues claim and advocate.

Building on Betty Friedan’s “feminine mystique”, Ms. Wolf’s argument is that via the “sexy myth,” the forces of female oppression of the past have mutated and are now attacking another chink in the female armor. A new front in the war against women that seeks to subdue the free spirit of politically liberated women with a new form of psychological oppression. As Wolf writes:

“The diet and skin industries became the new cultural sensors of women’s intellectual space, and because of their pressure, the gaunt, youthful model supplanted the happy housewife as the arbiter of successful womanhood” (ibid).

Such reasoning, in a rather peculiar sense, is understandable. As more culturally entrenched forms of female oppression, such as legal barriers that hold women back are now history, it is time to turn the attention to subtler forms of gender oppression/sexism.

With regards to Ms. Wolf and her “beauty myth”, one needs to understand the deeper psychology that is at work here. Whenever feminists raise concerns about male oppression, double standards and the like in the world today, one must recognize that there are other factors and stakes at play. At a time in history when women in the West as a group are doing far better than men at the same stage in life. A subject I have dealt with in my essay: Why Men Matter. It is important that men be aware of deeper incongruities that exist within, and the aliments that afflict the feminist mind.

If one can look past the regurgitated and altruistically-sounding themes and slogans that get passed around by feminist campaigners under the heading of “gender equality” or “equal rights”, one soon discovers a certain rot at the heart of the feminist worldview. An anti-sexual one.

The talks of “body positivity” where women are supposed to be affirmed and respected regardless of being on the high end of the body-mass index, including those who are clinically obese, operate out of the “beauty myth” playbook. The idea is that women can somehow look the way they want, even if that means being ridiculously out of shape, and still expect to be taken seriously in a romantic or sexual sense goes against the logic of life.

The reason why companies employ young, sexy, fit women to advertise their products is because that is what men and women desire. In other words, the world of business and corporations are responding to signals that stem from the human mind and are building their products and services around it. It is not the other way around. A subject I will return to.

On the feminist side, what is being offered as alternatives is the antithesis of the biologically determined and culturally affirmed markers of attraction. This is common sense. Being slim, and toned with few blemishes makes a woman more attractive than a female who isn’t. A fact that the business community exploits via the commodification, or better the ‘productization’ of beauty. It markets to the masses who are drawn to it because it resonates with something deep within them, as consumers but preceding that as human beings.

What the “beauty myth” that Ms. Wolf and the feminist ‘fat is beautiful’ or ‘out of shape is sexy’ crowd are preaching is the destruction of those standards. Interestingly when people like Naomi Wolf, Betty Friedan and other anti-beauty or better, anti-sex feminists rail against commercials featuring hot models, beauty pageants featuring girls in bikinis, or speaking of Hollywood, the replacement of traditional beauty, youth and heteronormativity with the girl-boss that embodies butch, dyke and matriarchal personas; what they are really doing is not fighting for ‘gender equality’ but rather advancing a gendered agenda of their own.

Think about it. When people habitually complain and accuse others of doing something bad, like lying, it often means the person in question is guilty of the very same thing. The problem of projection is well understood within psychological circles, and it appears this state of mind is operative here at the level of the individual and the collective when it comes to feminism and its proponents.

The determination and organized rage of the anti-beach body-ready protesters showcased the spirit of intolerance that lies at the heart of the modern feminist movement. By claiming to be the powerless victims of social norms on feminine beauty, these ideologues sought to and succeeded in imposing on society their worldview of what counts as acceptable body standards.

Feminists in fighting the beauty myth-that is traditional heterosexual standards that pertain to female beauty, femininity and sexiness-are advancing a narrative of their own. An ideologically motivated one. When feminists accuse corporations, society, capitalism or men of using standards of beauty to consolidate power and keep women down, ironically what the feminists are seeking is the very same thing. Power. The power to influence, shape, assert and if necessary impose their beliefs and standards on what constitutes ‘beauty’, and by extension on how women should be perceived, and what men’s expectations should be as far as modern women are concerned.

This is where you have young women today, like those who find themselves on dating/relationship podcasts like Fresh and Fit, Whatever etc. Describing themselves as being a 10/10 on the looks, personality and desirability departments, even when reality does not conform to this notion. Also worth mentioning, many of these girls are selling themselves on OnlyFans, which is a subject for another time.

Returning to the matter of ‘gender equality’ and ‘equal representation’, such language which is often employed rhetorically, despite their egalitarian tone masks a certain bitterness towards the true, the good and the beautiful. The indignant cry for justice and the call to right the supposed wrongs of the past has disarmed critics on the Left and the Right. With the main target of such injustices is heterosexual men who value traditional gender norms with respect to the sexes.

An important question here is: who gets to decide what should/ought to be acceptable body standards? The physical makeup and various other attributes that make a woman beautiful are as the saying goes ‘in the eye of the beholder’. However, as a society, men and women have converged on a set of physical attributes that would deem a female attractive and hence desirable.

Thus the businesses advertising such fitness products base their decision on serious market research involving the study of of consumer preferences, combined with an understanding of societal norms on what makes a girl attractive. Building on these insights such beauty products are developed and marketed to females; namely, the aspiring ones to work towards the ideal. It goes without saying that the people protesting the beach body ready advert do not meet this standard and/or do not wish to live up to it, and worse, oppose the very existence of such standards in the first place.

Essentially what the feminists did in protesting the beach body ad was to invite censorship. Unable to compete in the marketplace of ideas by advertising their own standards of ‘beauty’ via a marketable product; the perpetually offended class of modern, liberated equality-obsessed women, by generating social discontent appeal to the power of the State. Inviting its heavy (interventionist) hand to shut down what they (the feminists) as a group deemed to be “offensive”, “discriminatory”, “sexist”. This is not a fight for ‘equality’ or ‘better representation’ or whatever the rhetoric the feminists use, rather it is the inability to accept the humanistic principle of live and let live.

Whilst the State can guarantee that women are not discriminated against in the pursuit of their economic security, self-worth and recognition; that does not entitle women as a distinct group to special treatment. That some women (albeit a very vocal one) have a problem with what private corporations are doing in the marketplace, does not mean that corporate marketing decisions infringe on all women’s right to ignore, dismiss or pursue alternate standards of beauty. 

But as is increasingly the case, the feminist fight for equality in practice often comes down to a single-minded pursuit of a select understanding of what it means to be an empowered woman in modern society. A key takeaway here is that such efforts of social mobilization by feminists to fight sexist beauty standards or whatever other ‘injustice’ only succeed in protecting the fragile egos of the types of women who are unwilling to look good: that is in a way that is sexually appealing to men. In the meantime, their bullying activism makes life difficult for companies: its owners, managers, employees, etc. who are trying to make a living by selling a viable product.

As for the “feminine mystique” argument that women must be liberated from the inebriating effects of advertising, and underlying it market capitalism that is supposed to be keeping women confined to the familial space. Well if that argument is true the only way to challenge that is in the marketplace. This is a tough proposition for feminists, and their Statist bakers on the political Left.

Whilst the market system is not perfect and is prone to producing negative externalities in the absence of government oversight and in some cases leading to market failure. Though the latter scenario is often due to the distorting effects of State intervention. But the answer is not to shut down, stymie or forcefully alter its business practices by appealing to the power of government.

If you don’t like a product or service, which begins life as an idea envisioned by the entrepreneur, your response is to not buy it. And if you really have a problem with a product or service (one that is not overtly harmful) and think you can do better, then come up with something of your own by entering into the competitive arena of business economics.

This is something feminists simply cannot do. If history is anything to go by, the feminist response to any injustice, real or perceived, is activism. Since the goal is equality: specifically the equality of outcomes, they are blinded to the mechanics that underpin success in the marketplace, and instead seek to distort its normal operation. The ‘marketplace’ in this case consists not only of beauty products but also movies, TV, corporate representation and even military service.

In 2022, after years of pushing for more female representation in boards and higher levels of management, a popular talking point in gatherings like Davos World Economic Forum and the highly publicized research by consultancies like McKinsey & Company, the European Union (EU) reached an agreement where all boards in companies with 250 or more employees must have at least 40 per cent women. Quotas in other words (10). In 2022, a study conducted by the Rand Corporation found that the military had to lower test standards to better the chances for women to pass fitness tests (11).

Now a question I would like to pose on the beach body-ready protests is, what do these feminists actually seek to accomplish, besides having the company pull down its ads and the potential revenue it stands to gain? I don’t know, force such corporations to feature models of all sizes!? Effectively distorting the very purpose of running a targeted ad campaign, intended to engage a certain demographic.

The sad part is that these protesters, by shutting down views and ideas deemed heretical-work to marginalize the beliefs and voices of women who are in tune with their femininity and sexuality and are realistic about the way the world works. Whilst sexless/anti-sex feminism is the dominant gender ideology of our time (until the rise of transgenderism), the fact is there are a lot of women out there: heterosexual, feminine, youthful, beautiful females who are comfortable with their sexuality and wish to showcase it to the world.

But owing to the puritanical and inherently intolerant nature of modern feminism such voices are robbed of their freedom to choose, and by extension a portion of their agency. Feminist activists in their quest to save women from their own susceptibility to feminine mystique question the volition and freedom of women they seek to liberate.

The decision was taken by Formula One to end the use of ‘Grid Girls’-scantily clad, attractive women who do promotional work in races-in 2018 is another such example. This decision was justified on the grounds of promoting “gender equality”. But everyone knows the real force behind such moves. The sad part is that such a decision disenfranchises a lot of attractive, aspirational women from making a living and using that F1 stage as a platform to build their careers (12).

Taking a step back, it seems for the feminists of today the idea of women’s liberation is not really about giving women the freedom to choose among competing alternatives with respect to identity, vocation, social function and sexual expression. Feminism, if the beach-body-ready protests and other anti-sex campaigns in recent memory, like the ‘Gamergate’ saga is anything to go by, is mainly concerned with advancing a predefined narrative on what is the socially acceptable definition of womanhood. A narrative, and underlying it, an ideology, that is intolerant of competing views of women’s empowerment, particularly those that factor in their sexuality.

If women stopped enhancing and showcasing the beauty that nature (or God) has imbued them and instead resigned to the (easy) fate of looking out of shape, rough and ready all the time, disabusing themselves of the enslaving standards of beauty, sexiness and desirability that exploitative men have thrust upon them, a potential consequence (possibly a desired one) is that women, particularly the young, attractive, and impressionable ones will be made to idolize the persona of such activists. The loud, browbeating bunch of obnoxious sirens who don’t have to give a darn about anything but their own peace of mind.

But that is not enough. Feminists in Western culture, and particularly the Anglo-American world have gone ideologically unopposed for so long (again, until the rise of transgenderism – but for the wrong reasons) they see themselves fit to function as moral arbiters on debates surrounding gender and sexuality. So certain are they of their moral and ethical infallibility that censorship on the grounds that something is deemed to be offensive or at odds with their beliefs is justified.

The dominance of feminism culturally in the West is partly due to a lack of countervailing views on female sexuality. The heteronormative kind. Whenever complaints of sexism, female objectification, ‘male-gaze’ and the like are raised, the target is invariably male. Specifically White, Western, Christian, heterosexual males. Modern feminism appears to be defined by this toxic anti- heteronormative, male spirit that is uncomfortable whenever female sexuality is showcased or celebrated in a way that is captivating to such a demographic.

In 2011 the high-end British retailer Marks and Spencer was ordered by the Advertising Standards Authority (ASA) to take down ads featuring a hot model in lingerie following complaints that it was “overtly sexual” (13). The argument for its censorship was on the grounds that the ad, which was posted on London buses, would be viewed by children. This is a fair point. But looking it at critically, it becomes clear there is more to this.

The first thing to note is that London, like any major Western, cosmopolitan city is filled with ads, commercials and other materials that use young, attractive women for commercial purposes. With the target audience invariably being heterosexual members of society; who incidentally make up the vast majority.

Such adverts are likely to resonate with those who are in touch with their sexuality: persons who are not afraid of their capacity for sexual intimacy, or in the case of the neurotic, living in a state of perpetual contradiction with it. A criticism that also applies to many religious (conservatives) who favor censorship.

On the subject of child safety, the goal to protect young minds from the world of adults that is filled with sex and innuendo is a good one. What is curious is that such calls for censorship would not be forthcoming in Western nations if the sexuality in question was homosexual in nature, or of any other identities that make up the LGBT alphabet soup. One would be hard-pressed to find feminist calls for censorship of gay pride parades, transgender drag shows and the like which feature live nudity, often in full view of the public.

The point is feminism in its ideologically adversarial form, is directed solely at heterosexual sensibilities and by extension the worldview of heterosexual men. So feminism as an anti-sex movement is fundamentally an anti-heterosexual one.  

Strong Female Characters & The Marginalization of the Male-Gaze

Strong Female Characters & The Marginalization of the Male-Gaze

Anyone who has been following popular culture, notably movies, TV, comics and increasingly video games in recent years would have noticed a pervasive trend. A trend/movement that calls for greater representation of women + more ‘positive’ portrayals of females that do not conform to traditional gender dynamics and sexuality.

A spate of media in recent years featuring women who are not only less/un lady-like in their personas but seem characterologically (and by extension sexually) opposed to the idea of complementing men. And instead, see it as their mission to supplant the opposite sex in whatever they do. From the commercially popular but culturally controversial post-Disney era Star Wars movies, female-led video games like The Last of Us Part II, and comic book series from DC and Marvel that in the past decade or so have embraced an ethos and an art style that no longer caters to heterosexual male sensibilities.

In the gaming world, the subject of the ‘uglification’ of female characters is another related development. Games such as Horizon Zero Dawn, Mass Effect Andromeda, and Dead Space Remake feature lead female characters who are portrayed as either much older and/or much less attractive in terms of curves, jaw-line, number of wrinkles and overall a lack of femininity and sex appeal (14). Game developers, for a variety of reasons, have started to purposefully design female characters less attractively than their real-life counterparts, or portray them as much older versions (i.e. as women well into menopause). The sort of specimens that hot-blooded men will not find undesirable.

There are a number of reasons for this. The agenda of major game and film studios to push a certain narrative on gender and sexuality owing to the equality-obsessed modus operandi of its leadership is one argument. Case in point, Ms. ‘Put a chick in it! Make her lame and gay’ Kathleen Kennedy (15). Going further, if the conspiracy theories are to be believed, the machinations of corporate power brokers like BlackRock with their ESG (environmental, social and corporate governance) mission, one that masks a more insidious globo-homo agenda is another point to consider (16).

Whilst these concerns will no doubt be dismissed as conspiratorial by some, the reality on screen and behind the scenes increasingly indicates otherwise. The Acolyte series, headed by the lesbian Leslye Headland is the latest Star Wars entry that came under fire for its excessive promotion of ‘woke’ elements, from fans who are nostalgic for the George Lucas era,

The show, in addition, to being starred by a female ‘person of color’, features many of the tried and tested elements found in ‘diversity and inclusivity’ focused media: female characters who rule the roost aided by the predictably dumb, spinless and impotent male characters. Combined with the total lack of eye candy from a heterosexual perspective. Along with the rather unique addition to this show: lesbian space witches who apparently conceive without men (17). A narrative that reeks of Herland.

Herland is a utopian novel by the feminist author Charlotte Perkins Gilman about a society that consists solely of women who reproduce asexually and live in relative peace and prosperity thanks to the absence of men. As a side note, the idea that if men simply get out of the way and let the women lead, will solve most/all of society’s problems is a thought process that underpins the feminist worldview. At the end of the Star Wars sequel trilogy when Rey (Daisy Ridley) stands alone and claims the name Rey Skywalker as her own, but with no man or brood to call her own reeks of this worldview.

Taking a step back, it is not far-fetched to argue that there is something oppressively gay about the feminist movement. And by gay, I am not talking about ‘lesbian’ adult content that is mainly catered towards heterosexual men. The focus here is on women who identify as feminists and/or who seek equality with men (built on the spurious notion that women are an oppressed class in society), who seem to give off an unmistakable homosexual (non-heteronormative) aura.

Feminists, the activist kind in particular, if one observes carefully, carry with them an overtly masculine aura. Leaving aside actual gay feminists and speaking of the heterosexual kind, such individuals give off the vibe of a woman who has been on a heavy dose of birth control pills, thus predisposing her towards more feminine men; and thus view more masculine men as competitors or adversaries (18).

If the reader wishes to understand the origins of this movement that seeks to portray women, particularly young (impregnable) females as frigid, macho, sexually unavailable and ultimately as dykes, check out my essay: The Problem with Strong Female Characters.

For now, what feminists and their backers in the cultural mainstream need to understand is that feminism is a natural turnoff for men. Particularly the heterosexual, masculine kind who values the polarity of the sexes. Thus the only logical market for ‘strong’ (i.e. asexual or lesbian) female characters can only be other gay or asexual women and men. Or certain straight men who do not value females that embody the alluring feminine. A matter that ventures close to the trans debate.

So when it comes to the subject of female objectification, what the reader needs to understand is that the most vocal proponents of this view, leaving aside traditional Christians on the Right, are feminists. But it is a certain kind of feminist. An anti-sexual one. One who espouses an ideologically virulent strain of the women’s liberation movement that is inherently unconducive and potentially antagonistic towards male heteronormative sensibilities.

Gamergate – The Sexless Strike Back

Anita Sarkeesian

A notable cultural moment from a number of years ago, one that highlighted the developing divide between what straight, hot-blooded men and their (our) sexual expectations and its cultural outworking in media, games and entertainment wanted vs its feminist antagonists was Gamergate.

The story which broke out sometime in 2014, surrounded the controversy over the portrayal of women in gaming, and quickly gained considerable media attention. With the protagonist of the Gamergate saga, a woman named Anita Sarkeesian making the news. A memorable front-page story that introduced me to the development was on Bloomberg Businessweek titled the ‘Gaming Industry’s Greatest Adversary’, captured this then-brooding pop cultural conflict (19).

There is a lot to the Gamergate saga that I cannot fully unpack here. From questionable relationships between game developers and gaming journalists to the nature of online discourse on gaming platforms, to calls for greater representation in gaming. Whilst this kind of talk will sound like old news, at the time (late 2014) this was all the rage, and indeed much of what constitutes the modern culture war in the West with regard to sex, gender, representation and even race were birthed in this milieu.

Now the term ‘Gamergate’, if one follows the dominant discourse online, at least as far as official news channels and outlets (e.g. mainstream media, Wikipedia) are concerned, has come to represent the toxic culture surrounding gamers. Notably the hardcore variety who (at least in the imagination of critics) are sexist, homophobic, and White supremacist, and speaking of the present times, potentially transphobic.

Needless to say, a lot of harsh words are exchanged on gaming forums. Particularly during the heyday of online multiplayer gaming (Xbox 360 era). A time before companies started clamping down on free speech in such forums, a lot of “hurtful” things were said. I am using air quotes because that is the nature of gaming, particularly the competitive kind. It is a high-octane pedal-to-the-metal environment where verbal abuse is part of the experience. And whiners usually don’t get into such environments let alone make it a pass time.

I have taken the time to sketch out the mindset of the community of serious gamers who constitute a key part of the Gamergate saga. For it is important to understand the nature of their reaction when those who are perceived as outsiders start interfering. The moment a person like Anita Sarkeesian entered the mix: a woman in her 30s, supposedly a gamer, with an aura that screamed Nurse Ratched, and clearly with an ax to grind as far as prevalent norms on how the sexes are portrayed, the reaction that followed by serious gamers was to be expected.

The verbal abuse, some of it threatening directed against this activist was reflective of the world that she was trying to change, apparently for the better. But this is something gamers did not want. Gaming, particularly AAA (big-budget) games at the time and for the most part still is, is a predominantly heteronormative, pro-masculine, and aesthetically European (White) art form.

The bulk of the community that felt aggravated by some feminist upstart who had no serious interest in gaming other than to play spoilsport with her sense of activism, was reacting quite naturally. An ideologue, from the standpoint of gamers, whose aims were egged on by a sycophantic media that was clearly trying to ride the early stages of the social justice movement that was starting to sweep through the English-speaking world. And then when criticisms came her way, some of it admittedly brutal, decided to hide under the umbrella of sexism, misogyny and victimhood. This type of behavior is typical of those who espouse modern feminism.

Also, what the Gamergate saga showed is that when it comes to the discourse on gender, sexuality and its media representation, those who uphold, for the lack of a better word, ‘traditional’ gender roles and archetypes: where the women are young, hot, sexy and available, and the men strong, competent, purposeful and heroic, struggle to advance a legitimate defense of such ‘sexist’ portrayals of sexes whenever criticism is directed their way.

This is a subject for another time, but the crux of the matter is that ‘traditional’ gender roles-which go beyond the simplistic (moralistic) view of women as virgins, wives and mothers-and includes the femme fatale, the butt-kicking vixen, and yes even the damsel in distress are also good in themselves. Characters like Ivy Valentine from the Soul Calibur franchise battling enemies whilst wearing next to nothing can be as sexist for some. But for others, the vast majority of men and a lot of women, it is sexy and empowering!

Sexy is not sexist. Persons who raise such complaints are often not sexually attractive themselves and/or do not possess the capacity or the disposition to reciprocate the male gaze, and underlying it male sexuality in general. This I suspect is the real problem here. Speaking of someone like Anita Sarkeesian, the woman gives off a strong gay vibe, despite not being openly so.

Looking at her socials and online persona it does not seem like she has had any kind of (straight) relationship. And if her wedding-themed 41st birthday party earlier this year (07 March 2024) is anything to go by, it is clear that the girl who was going to upend the “sexist” gaming industry is happily living out her days manless and childless. Like Rey Skywalker (20).

Now this might seem harsh or dismissive. But it is needed. Given the nature of social activism surrounding gender, sexuality and representation; notably how single-minded and relentless the activism has become, in going after heterosexual standards and norms, it is logical to conclude that the antagonists are of a different sexual disposition, and hence logically opposed to what heterosexuals stand for.

Whilst much of the talk surrounding sex discrimination has centered around gays, lesbians and in more recent times, the trans; it is not beyond the realm of possibility to think that sexual prejudices felt towards members of a sexual group (heterosexuals) can take the form envy, bitterness and even hatred. One that is censorial, confrontational and potentially adversarial. All of it advanced under the happy guise of promoting gender equality and representation.

Feminism’s Failure: Only Fans and the Power of Sexual Capital

Only Fans and Erotic Capital

In the 2024 Paris Olympics, Alysha Newman from Canada bagged the bronze medal in the women’s pole vault. A great moment for the 30-year-old, but her win, particularly her celebration drew some critical attention. Upon clearing the jump, the visibly excited Newman proceeded to do a twerk, before running off to enjoy her moment of Olympic glory.

Not a big deal, but arguably not the most flattering one either. Things got more interesting when it became known that Ms. Newman is also active on OnlyFans: the controversial but extremely popular content service platform that is notorious for its adult content (21). Some things to consider here. First, the idea of an Olympic athlete turning to a platform that is used overwhelmingly by adult content creators and consumers is curious.

Now yours truly has no idea of the nature of the content the Canadian Olympian is producing. But what I do know is that OnlyFans, whilst a platform that helps connect individuals seeking adult content with those willing to service them, is not just about that. Here it is worth noting that in 2021 OnlyFans went back on a plan to ban pornographic content on the platform following outcry from users (22).

In the case of Ms Newman, her argument that she uses the platform to connect with her fans and also employs it as a monetary source is reasonable. I mean everyone could use a bit more disposable income, and in the times that we’re in, even professional athletes tend to have it tough. And as it happens she is not the only one, as other Olympians who are struggling to make ends meet are resorting to this medium (23).

Pertinent to our debate on the anti-sexual, anti-heteronormative character of feminism is the reaction that followed the Canadian athlete’s post-win celebration. As one would expect people had a lot to say about her celebratory ‘moves’. Added to the fact that she was on a platform like OnlyFans fueled a stronger reaction. And none was stronger in condemning her celebration, and her as a person than the conservative media commentator and host Lauren Chen. In her X post, the young, married mother commented:

“Absolutely shameful that Canada has a literal whore representing us at the Olympics” (24).

What is interesting here is that Ms. Chen is not a feminist. In fact, she has a history of anti-feminist commentary. And she is an attractive young woman. But given the choices that she has made in her life-to settle down with one guy and have a family-naturally puts her lifestyle in opposition to what the Canadian athlete embodies. Further, the use of the phrase “literal whore” is emotionally loaded, and clearly aimed to berate and demoralize not just her, but women who chose that way of life.

As for my take on the blonde Canadian’s moves… I didn’t mind it. And truthfully I kind of liked it. Heck, she’s a pretty girl: fit, athletic and got the moves to match. And there is no reason not to show it off, especially having won a medal at the Olympics. I guess her suggestive twerk on the track, and her presence on OnlyFans did not help her image but that, I would argue, paradoxically works in favor.

Since Ms. Newman has owned up to what she does in her free time (away from sports) to make money, and she is not ashamed to use her sexuality for monetary gain; taken together this is indicative and positively reinforcing of the kind of gender dynamics we ought to affirm and for that matter, celebrate. A world where female sexuality is valued objectively. Rather than condemned moralistically, or censored ideologically.

So whilst anti-feminist, pro-femininity social critics like Lauren Chen engage the extremes of feminism from the right-end of the political spectrum, unfortunately, they too, for entirely different reasons, fall into the anti-sexual (anti-heteronormative) camp owing to their rather simplistic (i.e moralistically determined) view of female sexuality.

One where the sexual power or ‘capital’ of a woman is viewed solely within the framework of marriage, and preceding that, in her ability to attract a long-term partner who will likely become her husband. Thus female sexuality in terms of its social and economic outworking is often viewed negatively. An anti-sexual state of mind that is that is most evident in the opposition to pornography, and underlying it the commercial and cultural potential of female sexuality.

Pornography and Sexual Market Value

Sexual market value

 

Pornography has been the subject of criticism from most quarters. From cultural conservatives, and moral traditionalists, to gender activists on the secular end of the political spectrum virtually all major facets of Western culture have expressed, at varying degrees, unease towards adult content. And have over the years called for the censure, curtailment or even the outright banning of pornographic content.

Whilst the potency of the Christian/conservative critique of porn has waned over time. A state of affairs that is partly a reflection of the waning influence of religion in the Western world. One of the main problems with the Christian critique of porn revolves around its morality-first character, often ignoring the socio-economic variables that work into the equation.

The sinful, immoral, corrupting influences of pornography expressed by the religious, whilst legitimate, are generally viewed with a degree of suspicion by much of Western culture that has drifted away from the sacred and is at unease with religious dogma of any kind. Particularly that which concerns the sexual arena, which is viewed as an infringement on individual freedom.

Feminists on the other hand have had a better time in advancing their displeasure with not only pornography but what the idea of perceiving women as primarily or solely as instruments of pleasure, and the underlying it, the transactional approach towards human intimacy that it builds on and engenders.

Feminist opposition to pornography has taken many forms over the past few decades. From the radical anti-porn activism of people like Andrea Dworkin in the 1970s – 80s, to social critics like Louise Perry today who have argued against the adverse social effects on women resulting from the ‘Sexual Revolution’ (25). It is worth noting that all of these voices are centered on heterosexual sexuality and its social outworking.

The economic potential of female sexuality is a subject that is often overlooked by social and cultural critics. Be they religious conservatives or statist leftists. This occurs for a variety of reasons: ignorance, close-mindedness, self-righteousness and of course envy. Akin to how the religious fanatic who preaches the evils of money, devoid of any theological insight, by citing scripture, and in the same breath requests the congregation for contributions; many critics of female sexuality on the secular front are guilty of their version of hypocrisy.

In her insightful book Honey Money (2011) the British sociologist Catherine Hakim coins the term ‘erotic capital’. Which she defines as the:

“nebulous but crucial combination of beauty, sex appeal, skills of self-presentation, and social skills – a combination of physical and social attractiveness which makes some men and women agreeable company and colleagues, attractive to all members of their and especially to the opposite sex” (26).

There is a lot to unpack here. The first thing to consider is that human sexuality is complex. The simple tale of boy meets girl, the two hit it off, form a relationship, and then proceed to consummate the union if they deem the relationship (however serious or superficial) good enough to be taken to the next level is informative in this regard. One that applies to serious relationships and casual hookups. But what is often overlooked is the complex dynamics that underpin male and female sexual behavior. Particularly the various factors that drive men and women to pursue sexual intimacy and the kind of social value that each sex tends to attach to potential sexual relationships.

The main problem with pornography is also its major strength. Pornographic content overwhelmingly caters to heterosexual sensibilities. The main consumers are heterosexual men who may or may not be in a relationship but use porn as an outlet for sexual gratification. This occurs when there is a surplus of demand for sex-owing to men’s higher libido vs a relatively lower supply of sexually mature (pre-menopausal) women that men find desirable and willing.

The use of such economic terminology to characterize human relations might be off-putting to some. How can sex, which is such an intimate and sacred aspect of human life be spoken in such transactional terms? Well, as it happens human sexuality is fundamentally a transactional one. A union where ‘value’ is exchanged between consenting adults. The nature and source of each partner’s value proposition vary based on several factors like age, income level, social status, health, ambition and character.

Hakim’s conception of sexual capital is important in that it does not view the capital or the economic power that humans (mainly women) wield via their sexuality as one that exists and manifests solely through their youth, beauty and femininity. In addition to these, sexual capital also engages the social and relational dimensions as well.

When it comes to OnlyFans, it is a platform that holds a middle position between the extremes of transactional sex: pornography and prostitution. The people paying for the services of these (mainly) young women to take off their clothes are effectively engaged in a simulated version of the oldest trade.

The men paying these girls are effectively paying for non-physical sex. With popular OnlyFans ‘creators’ holding a position akin to high-class courtesans who are in demand among wealthy clients. And given the digital (i.e. non-physical) nature of sexuality that is at play, it is akin to the pornographic world: where third parties are not actively engaged in the physical act of sex with a woman but are stimulated as spectators.

With respect to sexual capital, which is a combination of the relational, social and sexual; the women who are able to exploit this platform are getting ahead of the rest of the pack by being able to sell their sexuality for monetary gain. Now this is where the criticism of someone like Lauren Chen is problematic. Ms. Chen is a pretty woman. Smart and very articulate and no doubt if she ever decides to go down that path, she will have men lining up to pay a big bucks to see her in a more intimate setting.

The problem with moralizing the debate is that it seems to ignore, downplay or look down upon the economic potential of female sexuality and what a platform like OnlyFans affords sedulous young women: the ability to sell their sexuality, without the overt dehumanization of performing in pornographic movies or selling their bodies as call girls.

Further, OnlyFans can be seen as a more hedonistic outgrowth of Instagram: a platform where girls post bikini pics and glam shots of themselves wearing next to nothing, in addition to showcasing their lifestyle and in the process attracting a sizable followership. Many of the followers are men, and most of whom are simps: the type of men who struggle with women in the real world and often develop a vicarious connection with these young, hot, female influencers, whilst getting very little in return.

So the economic question is often the missing variable in the sex equation that critics of pornography and the worldview that it underpins, the commodification of human sexuality, tend to miss. Returning to the subject of the beauty myth, the argument that beauty standards have been socially constructed and seeded into the cultural soil thus shaping the minds of young girls, who upon reaching adulthood feel impelled to pursue and embody an ideal that puts them into a social straitjacket, is an attempt to overlook and rationalize the necessarily transactional nature of sex.

This should not come as a surprise since feminism has historically never been comfortable with the reality that sex roles at a familial and societal level are a function of biology. Much of feminist discourse is built on the spurious notion of a patriarchal order that men have established in order to oppress women; as opposed to it being an emergent reality dictated by biological necessity.

The fact that men have to pursue women, and in the process showcase strength, intelligence, earning-potential and leadership that is reciprocated by the youth, beauty, femininity and social competence of women is a fact of life that feminists and even certain religionists (Christian moralists) are unable to live; with. As Hakim writes:

“Erotic capital combines beauty, sex appeal, liveliness, a talent for dressing well, charm and social skills and sexual competence. It is a mixture of physical and social attractiveness” (ibid).

Women in the modern world, as empowered economic agents who exercise varying levels of control over their lives are free to express their sexuality in a more ‘conservative’ or ‘liberal’ lifestyle of their choosing. Whilst upbringing and the effects of media are bound to have an effect, the core drivers that impel women to behave in a certain way as opposed to another, are ultimately biological, followed closely by economics. So when the feminist Naomi Wolf complains that:

“We are in the midst of a violent backlash against feminism, that uses images of female beauty as a political weapon against women’s advancement: the beauty myth” (ibid).

She adopts a rather predictable feminist stance in denying the agency of women. Women who use their God-given anatomical bounties for their relational and economic advancement are doing it solely because society (that men control) has indoctrinated them into doing so. This is farcical.

For example, a girl who chooses to pose for Maxim magazine is doing so because her economic motives and ethical and moral framework align with the aims of the corporation that is in the business of selling beauty to its predominantly male readership. Meaning there is an exchange of value that functions as a key determinant arbitrating the nature of the relationship.

The only way the women who pose for adult or (traditional) men’s magazines can be remunerated is if the company selling them is able to generate enough sales featuring such models. A business model that rests on the truth that female beauty sells, because it is valued by the viewer. The reason why slim, fit, toned babes with stunning figures are valued is because these attributes correlate positively with sexual attractiveness.

The idea of female helplessness in the face of mass media, and corporate profit-driven marketing campaigns is not a new one, but it is wrong. The notion that companies are somehow locked in a secret struggle to keep women down by overloading their senses with titillating, captivating ideas of health, comfort, well-being, beauty, sex appeal etc. All of which works to dull the hapless female mind, in the process subduing her to domestic servitude or into social roles that exist to serve men, is rendered wrong by the success of OnlyFans. A platform where female content creators out-earn men (27).

A similar argument can be made with respect to dating apps. Where the gender disparity is skewed heavily in favor of women (60 – 75 per cent of men chasing 25 – 30 per cent of women) (28). In dating apps, the visual dimension is elevated significantly since men are visual creatures and base their (our) mate selection decisions on looks. For women, things work a bit differently.

Also, the fact that fewer women choose dating apps to find a potential partner indicates the power they wield thanks to their sexual capital. That women on average have less trouble attracting men, especially when it comes to short-term relationships or casual hook-ups, means they have more options (i.e. a larger pool of men) to choose from in their prime (youth).

The key takeaway is that feminists and traditionalists (family first, women should be virgins on the wedding night crowd) alike oppose the idea that females can manifest their sexuality socially, and if needed, exploit its economic potential outside certain ideological or moralistically defined parameters. So what results from this anti-sexual mindset are efforts to counter the commercial dimension of female beauty and sexuality via the censorship of cosmetics, health and fitness magazines, beauty pageants, erotica, and the portrayal of sexy female characters in movies, TV, comics and games. All of which, upon deeper reading work against an entrepreneurial spirit that feminists and religious ideologues, for different reasons oppose.

In sum the idea that female sexuality and femininity in its heteronormative orientation, exemplified by the historically dominant (though fast declining) standards of beauty, health, and fitness are manacles of repression which a male-dominated society has placed on women is not only false but purposefully misleading. Since the main beneficiaries of this state of affairs, at least in the West, have been women. So the real challenge in navigating a world where the transactional nature of sex rules, falls on the shoulders of men.

Women have been naturally bestowed with beauty, sex appeal, and feminine charm if they seek to cultivate it, and with it the tendency to be regarded as a protected class owing to their potential as mothers. For men on the other things work differently. Since men are not valued and pursued for their (our) looks by the opposite sex, and since men as a sex are generally considered expendable relative to that of women, the real marker of male attractiveness and underlying it, value is not biological but social. It is cultural, technical, financial and political. In a word, the primary source of erotic capital for men is power. The one thing that feminists logically deny men in their quest to empower women. 

Conclusion: The Problem is
‘Women’s Empowerment’

Women's Empowerment is the Problem

Much has been made of the idea of empowering women. Over the past decade or so it is virtually impossible to read through the news, follow current events, observe the pop cultural landscape without encountering some report, initiative or project aimed towards elevating the agency and well-being of women and girls.

Whilst things have toned down a bit in recent years. ‘Thanks’ in no part to the sudden rise of transgenderism, which seems to be playing spoil sport by disrupting the focus and attention that had overwhelmingly been directed towards women. That is biological women as a social subgroup that precludes men.

The problem with feminism historically in its various intellectual and cultural permutations (waves), to its modern sociological outworking lies in its ability to drive the agenda’s of political parties on both ends of the political spectrum. In the process positioning men as this outside group, who supposedly enjoy a perfect (empowered) status in society. By engendering the idea that women need empowerment logically implies that men don’t.

Thus the mission to guide, educate, empower and uplift women, necessarily excludes men. Whilst this point is never openly implied, initiatives to aid and uplift a select group of society, be it women, blacks, or homosexuals, necessarily works to marginalize or at best sideline members who do not fall into such categories.

As in beauty pageants, where the decision to allow older women, mothers, wives and persons who have transitioned takes away the attention that should rightly be given to those who are more worthy of the opportunity. With the consequence being that vast segments of society are effectively denied the opportunity to compete fairly and to be rewarded on merit.

Feminism’s fight against male oppression, real or perceived, has had an adverse effect on the well-being of men: socially, culturally and legally. The one factor that ties all of these together is politics. Feminism is fundamentally a political movement that seeks the supposed upliftment of women, by targeting things which men value in relation to women, and within themselves.

From Gamergate to beauty pageants, corporate boards to video games and Hollywood movies the spaces in which men can exist and operate freely has been steadily eroded. The acquisitive character of ideological feminism in practice is about limiting, curtailing and eventually crowding out the areas of operation that men have historically called their own.

The fight against spaces that cater to the unique psychological and developmental needs of men is one of the many examples of feminism’s anti-male agenda. The decision to allow girls to join the ‘Boys Scouts’ (29), the opposition to men’s rights groups in universities (30), and government mandates on quotas for women on boards, which history indicates is a characteristically male-space, are few examples of such developments.

The trouble for feminists (and biological women) is that the activism that has subconsciously or otherwise been directed towards a single group: heterosexual men, positing them as the adversary, with institutions run by men being characterized as a patriarchal beast that needs to be slayed, is now faced with a unique challenge in the transgender movement. With biological men entering female spaces-with or without surgery-and claiming the benefits of being an empowered ‘woman’ in the modern world.

However, from the standpoint of men-who choose to remain men-there is little comfort to be taken from such developments. Whatever ways the transgender movement mutates and affects feminism, the broader discourse on male – female relations remains. Heterosexual men who are Western, Christian, and ‘European’ at least in outlook, require a voice. One that is not necessarily anti-feminist, but pro-male. And is unafraid to take a stand, and own up to what it means to be a Straight male when it comes to managing relations with the opposite sex.

Taken as a whole, the status of men in the modern world relative to that of women is not a great one. Whilst men at the top, the 1 – 10 per cent of income earners have it good, for the vast majority of men it is a different story. This is a subject that has been engaged elsewhere by the likes of Jordan Peterson, Warren Farrell and in more recent times by academics like Scott Galloway. Such developments, whilst principally positive, do little to address the underlying (political) nature of this problem.

In the world today, feminism: that is the socio-political movement to empower, liberate, advance, uplift the status of women and girls commands tremendous political capital. From the boardrooms of blue chip companies to the UN, the White House to local governments; from the major film studios to the publication industry (32) and arguably the biggest elephant in the room: education. Particularly higher education where men are falling behind. This is all (as of 2024) old news. The question is what are we (men) going to do about it?

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